The Power of Having a Coach

I have decided to share success stories when they are touching me deeply. As a coach I value each achievement but it is one thing to work with a client for a long period and then get the results, however it is always exciting to get them quickly.

In the following video I share a very recent success story with a client  with whom I have used Positive Psychology Coaching techniques. This is a repeat client and the feedback I got from her has shown me that by now she has become a fan, not only a customer of mine.

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Positive Psychology Coaching is taking into consideration strengths and values of the client and starts from the premise that each person is whole, healthy, resourceful and motivated to grow. When the client has also decided to do what it takes to change the situation they feel stuck in, then the success can be guaranteed.

The mind is our very powerful ally in any transformation, however it can also be our biggest hindrance if we do not know how to work with it and engage it toward empowerment. There are a multitude of mind-based modalities that achieve astonishing results and I am so grateful that we live now in times when we can have access to the very best and efficient ones, that have a solid scientific research behind them. Some example are, besides Positive Psychology, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Hypnosis, Creating Your Future Processes® etc. In this manner people can really design their behaviour in such a way that assists them in succeeding easily and effortlessly.

Perfectionism, Incremental Improvement and Happiness

A person has recently told me that he is a perfectionist. I instantly remembered a time when I was proud of being one too, and then I remembered I actually was quite unhappy at that time too…

Have you been in a place where although nothing was “wrong” per se, you had this continued feeling of not being good enough, not having done enough, that every little thing could have been better than it was? This is a negative spiral and is a powerful trap. It might seem to lead you to excellence, however what it truly achieves is the exact opposite.

If we focus on what is not done, what is not enough and what is not perfect we doom ourselves to never be able to improve. For achieving excellence we need a certain mindset that cannot coexist with feelings of lack and limitation. It is biologically impossible! If we constantly compare ourselves with others we will underestimate our own achievements and our own qualities, so we will start running strategies that neurologically cannot nurture improvements. This has been richly researched and we have marvelous studies published on this subject in highly regarded fields like epigenetics and positive psychology.

When we decide to compare ourselves to us only, and to act towards improvements, then we start building a healthy mindset. By asking ourselves “how can I …?” we will find useful, practical ideas that will enable us to become better and better each day. When we  plant in our being this search for incremental improvements we are in congruency with the biological makeup of our body. There is an incremental improvement principle at work in our inherent healing mechanisms, whether it is a surgery scar or an internal organ that needs to be healed. And, even better, incremental improvement does not necessary require a long amount of time! Our mindset is the most powerful environment that is decisive in this matter and we need to carefully monitor it.

Next we need to ratify the change by keeping track of the daily improvements that we see. These constitute evidence for your unconscious mind and work as fuel for our newly designed mindset. All of a sudden we will know we are on track towards our specific desired outcome.  Any deviation you recognize should not cause any concern. All planes in the air are 90% of the time off-track, however they usually arrive at the destination just because during the entire flight the deviation is monitored and corrected (“course correction”), increment by increment in the direction needed. Therefore – all is in good order and you are on your way!

How does it feel to be a man/women on a mission?! Do I sense sparks of happiness? You chuckle, and for good reasons: happiness is produced by having simultaneous two ingredients: present pleasures or enjoyments (like a daily log of incremental improvements) and a meaningful goal we work towards (our specific desire we want to accomplish). And trust me, I am studying this fascinating field of happiness for four full years now! Happiness is what we were built for! Let’s honor it!